Another New Year ball has fallen and we’ve made it to the end of the first week in 2018. I usually find that the resolutions I made on the eve of the New Year fade and quickly. I end up frustrated and well, completely forgo the goals I made until I no longer remember what they were.
Yet, what if we made goals that would improve our marriage in small, easy ways daily? What if instead of looking for drastic steps, made small, manageable steps daily. I decided to do things differently this year.
Love Goals 2018
1. Kiss, long, kiss with heart:
It’s easy to kiss and go or forgo it all together. Yet, what if we chose to kiss and hold? The day is busy, hectic, and often taxing, but those few moments can allow us to reconnect. This simple act is simple, inexpensive, and yet, an investment in you, your spouse, and your marriage.
2. Stop declaring
who you were and begin speaking life into who you can become. You may have had a bad day, even a bad year, but you are not bad and your marriage worthless. Stop assuming you have to be what you were yesterday. Speak out your goals, give life to them by saying them aloud. There’s power in speaking aloud the direction you and your spouse desire go. It gives life where life may have felt lost and revive what grew grim.
3. Date Night:
Yes, we’re guilty and without excuse. We have ignored and rationalized our way out of having a date night. Find a way to invest in each other, kid free. Start small and work up to something more consistent. The kids will always need you and finding a babysitter to watch your kids may always be a struggle, but invest. We’re awful here, plain terrible. Start where you are, share the direction you’d like to go, and start. Date night doesn’t have to be a night of dress up and fancy spending, it can be sweats and Netflix. 🙂
4. More Sex:
Yes, I said it, sex, sex, sex. It seems obvious but much like date night, it can seem like last priority after a long day. According to WebMD, there are at many health benefits (http://webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/sex-and-health) to the activity, that may help sway decision, yet, ultimately, couples investing in more sex are happier.
5. Invest in each other:
Think who you were before you were mom and dad or husband and wife, you were friends. After responsibilities increased, it is easy to invest less in the person next to you, your spouse. Enjoy laughter, conversation together, invest in your friendship. It’s the foundation of your relationship (https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex-and-intimacy/the-role-of-friendship-in-marriage/twelve-steps-to-a-deeper-friendship-with-your-spouse) and strong buildings built on a strong foundation last, built on sand fall apart.
Often we return home tired and all that sounds appeasing is a movie in silence; however, investing in your marriage has long term effects. It won’t always be easy, but the return will be high.