I love the way a photographer captures a common image to make it unrecognizable; where I see a full landscape, they draw focus with their lens to see the individual detail of some of life’s most beautiful things.
Yet, isn’t this what we often do, we notice what lies in front of our eyes, we see it at face value and eliminate recognition of what is occurring around it. In other words, don’t we often notice another’s beauty and their grace? We hear a person’s articulate words, the way others respond to them; they present themselves as a confident beauty and it is quickly is perceived that life is perfect, even flawless for them. We assume all we see, all we hear captures the whole picture.
Yet, our view is skewed.
We see what is present, yet, it’s often jaded, our eyes do not see imperfections, faults, it doesn’t see hurt. It sees another’s best and compares to their worse.
I personally have done this countless times. I notice a beautiful co-worker or friend and notice all of their perfections, the beautiful hair, the contoured facial bones, they seem smart, articulate, and life simply seems amazing. Internally, I wish I were better, smarter, and had my life together as they seem to. My view is jaded, I see only what my eyes desire to see, not what they ought to see. Yet, though I know this and though this is an innate struggle, I still often run back to this.
So, how can we avoid this cycle and begin to see with the view God desires us to see ourselves in? How can we stop comparing our lack to another’s abundance?
we often compare our weakness to another’s strength The comparison of the two would never be fair, yet we do it. Knowing can help us rethink our rational of this jaded perspective. How can we measure ourselves when we are simply not designed to be anyone but ourselves? I struggled with this for years, what I saw as my lack I saw in abundance for someone else, immediately, I began to feel inferior and often bitter.
though life may seem flawless for another, we know only part of their story. We too can fall into the trap of comparing what we see with what view to be taking place in our own world.
Many professors I had would draw the illustration for our class that we see but the top of an iceberg yet the majority of the ice is below the surface. It’s much the same for us, we assume what we see is the complete picture of this person’s life. We assume what we see gives full perspective on their life and immediately we draw back to what our life isn’t.
our weaknesses and our strengths were planned with purpose in mind, though it’s easy in the thick not to believe. Each of us were created to act as differing parts of one body, by comparing we lose sight of what God is doing. We lose sight of looking up as we’re compelled to look out. We can celebrate others but not to compare. Comparing ends in destruction and results in little else but hurt.
It is good to recognize the good in others and yet, to recognize it in us. We each represent someone that is part of God’s image, someone with gifts that serve a purpose for His kingdom. Change your perspective, pull your lens from what you are focusing on to see the bigger, clearer picture.
You were made perfectly in His sight, each weakness and strength was made with your purpose in mind. Celebrate YOU.
You are the only you there will ever be. God made you unique, special and one of a kind. It is so important that in Him we become the best us we could possibly be. So many spend their lives wishing they were someone else living another life in another place. The truth is, this is your one and only life and you should never squander it in the world of comparison. – Christine Caine