This Is Us
We’re a married couple that simply doesn’t have it together. We argue when it doesn’t make sense, we dwell on concern things that we simply shouldn’t. Yep, we’re that couple, the couple that fails, frequently. Everything said we should have failed: large amount of debt, broken communication, hopelessness, broken relationships, no job prospects in a 1 income home. We were destined to be doomed.
We all have a Story
But, there’s always a story and ours goes as following. We married in 2005 with ambition and a desire to succeed professionally. Yet, we didn’t. The two of us quickly found we were selfish and deeply stubborn. Mistakes were made, mistakes that we’re preventable, mistakes we wish we could rewind and take back. Yet, it wasn’t until 2015 when life seemed to come to a halt and all we knew changed.
It’s one of those things where life stops as you know it and it quickly takes the taste of hopelessness. We were there, that was us. The two of us were hopeless and void of anything else. I disliked him and he, well, let’s assume he disliked me. The future was dim and we couldn’t see beyond that day. Yes, this was us.
The State of Broken
We simply remained. Stuck. It was like life was a broken record; we woke each day to the same hopelessness song, nothing new, each day seemed to repeat the same. The two of us seldom spoke as we walked through the hours of our day. I didn’t seek him for a hug that spoke, ‘It’ll be alright.’ He seldom looked me in the eye and smiled; we were empty, alone, and isolated roommates in our own home. We lived it for so long it didn’t feel that there was anything else to know for this was it, this was what marriage was. It wasn’t a fairy tale as had been described and love was but fiction, only to be told in stories.
365 Degree Turn It Wasn’t
As days turned into months, and months into a year, we found we weren’t in a vastly different spot. We lacked enough income, we still felt such a heavy burden, yet, we grew tired. We desired more, we desired to feel what we didn’t prior to the job loss. We began to seek something we hadn’t: intentionality. Frequently, we sought pouring ourselves into what was good, positive. We knew there had to be something better and knew we’d have to seek something different in order to have a different outcome. It wasn’t an overnight choice or a decision that transformed everything immediately. Yet, we began to feel hope, peace, and this alone was freedom we hadn’t felt in sometime. It was when we chose to live different that we began to experience something different. Together, we began to experience life differently. It wasn’t quick and still isn’t quick but to experience hope where we hadn’t, peace where we couldn’t was joy that we couldn’t buy.
The New Start to a New Start
So, we don’t have anything quick to sell, nothing new to promise. We’re still stubborn and selfish, we still often show pride where we ought not. Arguing still occurs and we find we have moments of “I’d rather not,” yet, God is walking alongside us, that’s it. Where we didn’t create the space for Him, we now do. We know we’re not better by trying alone. We’re not chivalrous. We’re not better, we don’t have any secret figured out, we simply realized that we can’t do it alone. We’re simply broken people who need Him each step. Nothing special to it. And, we simply don’t want to do it alone; we’re weak, we’re inept, and we lack what we need to do life to it’s fullest by being independent. But too know, we have nothing mastered.
No, we’re not therapists, counselors, we don’t have a degree to show ourselves credible. In fact, we’re the opposite. We have just learned a few things in our journey; the journey, once bleak and hopeless has promise that we’re grateful to see. We’ve
been on the side of lack, our hearts broken, expectant of nothing, we’ve experience hopelessness at a level so deep we were numb of anything more.
Yes, we’re that couple. We were once broken, hopeless, our future seemed but a waste, our past what others work not to repeat. Marriage is difficult, let us not create the illusion it’s easy; however, it’s worth the work.
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We’re in this together,
Mike and Megan Rosselot
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