Plans That Failed
Doesn’t it often go that the plans we create, yes, those fantastic plans we create in our mind don’t go as imagined. We’re on weekend number three, the kids are sick, each exchanging the flu back and forth like a rally in tennis. Utter disappointed, I felt sorry for myself. I had things I wanted to do; I wanted to go to the market, hike, eat out at a sit down restaurant, something, all but rest dormant for a weekend.
Yes, I fussed inside. I pouted. I found myself quietly envious of others who I imagined to be doing fantastic things while I had another weekend of quiet. Of course, I wanted to be out doing something fun, something that was exciting. Yet, today wasn’t that day. Today, my purpose was to be still, to care for my kids, and to cherish the task.
Finding in Our Disappointment
I found that in my disappointment, the quiet moments of being still were necessary. Entertaining the desire to live what you are not has healthy benefits, not all is considered bad. For me, I want to travel, not downstate, but to Europe, I want to see Iceland and the Holy Lands. There are things I’d yearn to do, yet, I know it isn’t now. There are moments, as I had this weekend, that are still. Moments that I yearn to be somewhere else but my purpose is to be still.
Now, please know, I don’t always handle it well. I often have this subconcious thought that I’m missing out on something; however, if anything, I am slowly learning that life is where I invest it. This thinking too has caused me to analyze my mindset, checking my actions with my words, with what motivates those actions. I’ve heard it once said that what consumes your mind, controls your life, and how true. The act of dwelling on something that wasn’t, only created a negative outlook.
Here are a few realizations:
We each go through season, each of us, and every season isn’t Disneyworld, often it’s exactly where we don’t want to be; however, focus your mind in a different direction, what can you learn from this place you’re, how can you become your best self here,
We each have our own journey, envy only steals this mindset and sets you off course. I once heard from a wise friend that ‘we often compare our worse to another’s best.’ She was correct. Don’t we often notice all we don’t have, all we’re not doing and focus on the perfection in their life? Though often easier said than done, stop comparing, it little good but destroy.
Reset your thinking. Here, this tactic, as simple as it is, serves as the best reminder for me. Learn from others, not envy them.
We all have our own journey, tonight might mean its being still, next week it may mean traveling. Don’t apologize, don’t feel bad. Life is fluid, constantly moving; today may mean you’re still, tomorrow may be another direction.
Plots of a Story
In all, the weekend was sweet. I began to own the need to be still. I soaked in that time with my kids and in such a busy world, quiet is often what I realize I don’t have much of. Where are you today? Just remember, a beautiful story wouldn’t be as powerful if it was just turning point of the story, it needs various parts of the plot to make it whole.
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